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reertopauseespeething
iortant,plicated,orunusual.letthelistenerdigest
etothinkand
tobreathe.
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excessivefillersare
charillers
thepoorspeakveryfast,ents,
toattraoveslowlyand
theyspeaksloheydoogetyourattention
becausetheyvealreadygotit.
chaele
inexperienced,unprepared,oervousspeakersoften
filltheirsentencesuh,
aheyreknoing
thespaetothink.inan
attettoholdontothelistetenti
tofindtherightthoughtsandwords.yourfillersaresay
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ing,“dontstoplistening,ihaventfi,justhangon.”
it”
aheiraybegin
togetaknotiofyourstoindy
besaying,“forheavenssake,getonhit”unlessyou
haveaparticulardesiretogtothesepeculiarand
inprehensiblenoises,getridofthenobodylikesto
hearthefillersarecharusters.
yourtoolsforgothers
thebestinatefillersistoslowdownyour
speakingstyleanddeliberatelyuseresileisas
sileasthat:ifyouusesilences,fillersdisappear.
everyoudo,dontbeoverlyselfnsciousintrying
toavoidfillers.youdontknoheyre
goingtohappen.tryingtoanticipateanunnsciousact
ulddriveyoucrazy.
instead,neyoufeel
an“er”or“u”ergingfroourlips.inrporate
sileoyoureverydayions,especially
hatyouarespeakingtooquickly,
andthefillersselves.
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gpeople
hyourvoice
anyruly;buttospeakhorder,wisely,
aly,ofthat,feenarecapable.
ntaigne
thesoundofyourvoicehasaprofoundinfluen
theodaivityofthepersonyouaretalking
to.theretoneofyourvoiceatsfor38pert
ofyeasnotedpreviously,bodylanguageand
theselvesareresponsiblefortherest.
whoeoneha
high,shrillvoiakesyou
eeoneo
akesyoufeelas
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thoughyourebeingereblas
.cashree.
onotonousandbvoices“blah”
voices,.theyaresuretoreduceboththe
attentionandthereceptivityofthelistener.youhavetouse
yourvoicetheationand
lorthatkeseveryoutalkaboutevenifitsjust
thearketsoundiing.
resolvetobeastorytellerratherthanatalkingfax
e.
loe
whenyou,reassuring,
intite,he
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ddletonesarealsogreattoreasonh
theotherpersonorshohatyoucareorarebeing
thoughtful.
also,rendyourselftoslosverydifficult
tobeclose,friendly,,orthoughtfulwhenyoure
speakingtooquickly.stofustendtoslourally
otions.
trythis:sayquickly,“ieeplynceedaboutyou;you
analotto.”
nooreslouchresincere
andreal.
pickuptheteo
oherhand,ifyouhaveaflatvoice,pushyourself
outofyourfortzoneandpickuptheteowhenyou
gpeoplehyourvoice
tosouedorenergized.usetheuppersounds
ofyourvoice,butnottoohigh.varyyourspeedandtone.
chooseyourpadtonebasedonyouretalking
aboutandtheodyoutocreate.
deepervocalsoundssuggestsizeandstrength;higher
soundsnveysllnessandweakness.ifyouhearadeep
barkingbehindadoor,youdontexpecttoseea
chihuahuifyouhearhighpitchedbarkingyoudont
expecttoseeagreatdane.poely
speakreslohloones.
nee,neareer
thereifootballplayersix
feetsevenialland280pounds.he
player,butthoughheonthe
field,ineverydaylifehehadthevoiceofachihuahua
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terialintoatapererderataleisurelypace.gently
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varyingyourtoneupanddothisexercise
untilyouarepleasedhtheresult.
send,playthispleasantsoundingvoiceofyoursover
andainathoandinyourcar.asyouee
thepo
irintsitselfonyoursubnscious,youwillfindyourself
speakinginthatsatoneofvoiyoureverydayions.
orefrequently,the
overallpersisthatofaricher
andervoiingpersonality.
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beag
ionalist
sirarthurnandoyleissaidtohaveoadinnerparty
ravingaboutoscarasaionalist.
“butyoudidallthetalking,”hispanionpoi.
“exactly”nandoylesaid.
stephenfry
yourihe
en,aopeople.butthere
isanadditionalqualitythatthoseenjoy
theyaregreationalists.
beingafocusedandpatientlistenerisessentialto
charusingapleasantvoidnottalkingfastalso
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raisey
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