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www.lizi.tw栗子小說 m.lizi.twiftheyplyslowdown,
youdhavetitograspthesituationahedecision
totakeaiveroute.
haveyoueverreceivedassageonyouranswering
eberoken
sorapidlyorilythatyouuldhelast
fouuersyouenduphavingtoreplaythessage,
sotisrethanonber.
givepeopletitothink
alkandaredifficulttolisten
to.youuldevenbeohethetroublehfasttalk
isthatitinvariablycreatesiveiressionsandvirtually
nopositiveones.afasttalkergivesyounotito
thiondhink
ofafasttalkerdontyouthinkofausedcarsalesn,a
nartist,orsooneanipulateorhustle
youintosothingthatisnotinyourbesti
fasttalkkesaspeakersouhoughtfuland
reselftered,sholy
thatpersonesaied
onlyintheyhavetosay.fasttalkisasureway
toralizeanyopportunityforchar
betterspeakingusingthesloeique
isthesolutionforfasttalkthereareteiques
youuse.thefirst,veredhere,issilytoslowdown.
thesendveredinchapter27isforyoutoleahow
tousesilenion.
ifyoubeentoldnytisthatyouspeaktooquickly,
theresanintealnitoryouusetontrolspeak
thepo
ingtoofast;itscalledyourfortzone.justaswehave
fortzoheoutside,andingtoocloseto
sooneisintrusiveandtoofaraacy,
fortzonesioo.
ethingunfaliaroroutofthe
ordinary,youfortable.you
ostirresistibleurgetogobacktodoingit
theoldheoldhat
well.
uresofhabit.ooeasilyslipintoarut
andtheallpressuretogetoutofit.wearealways
refortabledoingthingsthee
a.itsliketheritualwego
throughreadyfortheday.first,theleftshoe,
thentheright,theherightohe.ifyou
trytogethepatte,itfeelsodd.
asileexperint
inoursenars,sand
noticeisontop.thentorefoldtheir
arontop.tryityourself.doesntit
feeloddthisisthesafeelingyouhavewhenyou
attettogeanoldhabit.
butallgroentesfrobr >
fourselvesoutofourfortzoothezone
ofdisfort.iffortzoneswe
hatincludesgingforthe
better.
oldhabitsdiehard,andrapidspeakingisangthe
stpersistentoftheifitsahabityouarehavingtrouble
kiakesureyou
sloakingyourreiortant
theartofspeakingslowly
points.thisteiquealoheperceptionthat
youarespeakingreslowlyoverall.
itisiortantthatyoukeeppractigatspeaking
resloeraarttodevelopanew
fortzoyouehen
feelunfortableooquicklybecause
theneingreaable
foryou.aant,youllfind
itschrefortableforyourlisteoo.
yourtoolsforgothers
herearetostretchyourselfout
ofyourfortzoneandintotheperforneof
higherachievent.
first,getatapererderandtapeyourselfreadingaloud.
speakataspeedthatsoundsunfortablyslooyou.
yourinstinctydendthatyouspeakatyourold
speed,butpaynoattentiontoit.nohe
rerding.youhatalthoughyou
soundedslooyourselfwillsound
justrightonthererding.youcheckthisoutbyasking
afriendorfalyertolistentoyourrerding.
send,usethesateiqueduringaion
poystillfeeltoosloo
you,itostcertainlybefihelistener.
reer,intheearlystagesofleaingtoslowyour
speech,youustfeelunfortable.ifnot,then
youreprobablystillspeakingatyourold,quickspeed.
chapter27
theeloquence
ofsilence
heuandyoursilence
uandyourwords.
elberthubbard
intheearlydaysofhispresidency,geew.bushwas
judgedtobearatherpoorspeaker.sotisitwas
alstpainfultoptstogethis
ssageaethinghappened
alongtheprovedhisabilitytospeak
reeffectively.hisaideshiredsoofthetopspeechers
inthebusiness.butinadditioerspeech
terial,thereethingelse.heleaedtospeak
pactbyusingpauses,evenif
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theeloquenceofsilence
theyes.thege
andapprovalratingsforhisspeechdeliveryrose.
pausinggivesapersontitothink,tokeepntrolof
the,anditgivestheaudienceacetorelateto
eabetterspeakersily
bypausingforasendortvariousintervalsduring
yourdelivery.
itisduringthesilehatyourlistenershe
cetorefleyousay.theyareabletopicture
intheirndsyouaretalkingabout.theyhavethe
opportunitytoeaning,toand
respondtoyourfeelings.
inaddition,pausesalloeohaveaninnerdialogue
hyou.theyactuallytalkintheirheadsexpressing
theirihoughts.asalistener,haventyouoften
foundyourselfsayingthingsinyourheadlike,“idisagree,”
or“ethingaboutthat,”etc.
thereinnerdialogueyouinspire,thestrongeryour
ionhyourlistenerswillbe.
hereisaniortaabouttheartofspeaking
gohsilence.evenifyoudont
alheidealplaceforasilence,yourlistener
knohedifferenceheooinvolvedh
youandyouaresaying.iion,nobody
thinks,“noihatpausehewrong
place.”
yourtoolsforgothers
practicepausi
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