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inthesaeaccustodtopractic
ingthechareiquesdescribedinthisbook,younot
onlyappeartobelisteningrenvinglybutyouactu
allydolistenreeffitlyandreerreeffec
tively.itsasthoughbygettingyourbodythe“outside”
todhtthings,youprotetherightattitudethe
“inside”andtherightchestry.
byinrporatingatteeningteiquesinto
thepo
yourlife,thepayoffisnotonlythatyouappeartobean
involvedandglistener,butthatyouactually
beeaninvolvedandglistener,o
bechrereheother
peopleinyourlife
yourtoolsforgothers
”fakeituntilyoukeit.”theiyouaretalking
toanyone,inbusinessorsocially,actasifthatotherperson
elyfasating.hangoneveryword.leanforward
ontthatthis
personisgoingtogiveyoualliondollarsifhelikesyou.
actagly.
innotiatall,youerestedin
theotherperson,andbysogicalchestry,thisindividual
oshareobservationsandinsightsthat
ysurpriseanddelightyou.nylifelongfriendships
havestartedthisway.
chapter24
yousayand
ho
anscharacterisrevealedbyhisspeech.
nander
thefirststeptoingapletelyg
personistobeeagreatlistener.sooneror
later,though,itutospeak.yousay
andhoareessentialingredientsinyourability
todpersuadeothers.
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thepo
rononspeaking
ihaveadelightfuloldfriend,cecils,asuccessful
theaterdireanyyears.iactedinseveralofhis
produs.heost
et.heepitozedalltheelents
ofcharhattenaboutinthisbook.
ostiressedabouthiewayhe
tuedeveryteredintoasho,
,andg.hehadplenty
ofopinionsofhisoanystrongones,butthey
nicatedhrespectasan
exgeofideas,notaspetition.
aialspeakingskill
thereareseveralskillsyouisyourtu
tospeak,andtheyllbeveredoverseveralchapters.lets
startagainadifferentangle.
tigazineonediaanddid
thefirstjorintervieikhailgorbachev,thethen
visitingrussianpresident.hisabilitytonicate
id
politiajorreasonsheasded
tothepresidenunication
skillsereporterwho
eetingpresident
gorbachevarehiseyes,theiriy,theirdireess,and
theirpower.”
feacthisskillis
.
yousayandho
thepeople
therulesusedforeyentact
froherulesusedening.when
youreinaoneonoionhanotherperson,
lookattheotherpersonseyeshan85pertof
theti.intaiactalltheticreatestoo
chpressure.ucheyentact,youvirtually
piherpersontotheing,
youeacrossastoointense.
hoeoalkingtoyouand
akeshereyesoffyouitbeintidatingand
eveening.noticetheoviesuse
thatkindofunyieldiactheyspeak.
yazefroersontopersoly,onepersonata
ti.useyoureyentacttoreachoutandincludepeople
ininto
theion.everyoneyouaretalkingtoshouldfeel
thepothandattention.
yourtoolsforgothers
keapointofpractiggoodeyentayone
youtalkto.besureyoudontoverdoitlookattheother
personseyeshan75pertto85pertofthe
ti,overbearing.lookdeep
intothepersoherthansuperficially.itsadefinitive
wayofsaying,“iseeyou”
chapter25
thelookaside
speeanspeaks,soishe.
publiussyrus
heonedoialking,thelookaside
isaponicationteique.it
isacasualglaoonesideortheotherofthelisteners
head,ontarilyredirethe
persohesideoftheface.
lookasidesshouldbedonecasuallyandiently.
neverlookabovethelistenershead,becausethatwill
nvineone
distragyou.frequentlooksbelohelistenerseyes
tobelievetheyghthavefoodontheirface
ravyontheireanttogive
youtheopportunitytolookatotherthingsorpeople;
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thelookaside
rather,theyaretheretoreleasethelistenerfroooch
iyingfroou.inoneonoions,
theyareessential.
yourtoolsforgothers
theiyourespeakingeoneforanyperiod
ofti,practiceshiftingyazethtorleft
ear,andthenbaouthandeyes.
kesureyourlookasidesareshort,neverforrethan
threesends;otherracted.
reerthatyourobjectiveistointaingoodeyentact
akiherpersonunfortable.
chapter26
theartof
speakingslowly
thinkbeforeyouspeak,pronounperfectly,
noutyouroohastily,butorderlyanddistinctly.
geeon
nypeople,beentoervousness,
speaktoofastandlistentoolittle.people
oofastbebothfrustratingandirritating.
haveyoueverbeenstuatrafficjaily
beetouand
thetrafficreporterontheradiosaidnearp
hatact,aeativerouteif
onlythesereportersdidntspeaksofast.theyareprofessionals.
donttheyknosdifficulttoabsorbalotof
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theartofspeakingslowly
infortionsoquickly
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