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seekingnfirtion.youhavea50pertceof
beingwrong.
instead,youaskher,“fitdoyouthinklooksthe
best”everheranssthe
oneiochoose.”youllsoundlikeagenius,and
gaswell.
chapter20
thepowerof
patientlistening
peoplearealofolloe
acrdshtheirownwishes.
ladyblessington
beforeyoustoplisteningandstartspeaking,always
takethetitonsidersgoingonhthe
personorpeopleyourespeakingotional
level.notterhoanyideasorinsightsy
occurtoyou,iftheotherpersoedryor
unhappy,itsstill
listeningtiforyou.
bepatient.givethe.when
theyareready,theyllaskforyouropinionand,iftheyre
lookingforansesa
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thepoientlistening
persoionsaenerslogicarelikeoiland
ix.
yourtoolsforgothers
tentivelylistening”andtheperson
speakiobeveryetional,listenhadded
patiencebeforeyousayanythihepersontalkand
getallofhiseroretionoutbeforeyou
attettojuinandofferanysuggestions.
stiortant,becarefulaboutgivingadviless
sooneasksforit.yoursyatheticlisteningwillbe
chappreciated.
chapter21
bequiile
andlaugh
againsttheassaultoflaughteothingstand.
rktwain
theresionthatslingandlaughingare
clearindicatorsofhouchyouareenjoyingbeing
eone.heoccasionandthesubjectallo,
alileandlaugh.
agenuinesleinvolvesthesclesthatsurround
youruthandyoureyes.ile,kesure
yougetallofyourfaile.letitghtuptoyour
eyes.
noeangrinninglikethecheshirecatat
everythingthatsbeingsaid,hingateverydiocre
quiporjoke.overdoingituldraisesuspisthat
yourebeingphonyortooopenlytryingtocurryfavor.
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bequiileandlaugh
reeralsothatslesthatappearge
“silesseeolingerfora
ntortilethatdoesntlingerreallyisnta
sle.
thereareverygoodpsychologicalreasonstoallow
yourselftosleandlaugheasilyandnaturally.hereisan
illustration.
rononhoorisntagious
inearlydaysasatheaterdirector,theveryfirstedy
idirectedebloon.
itloadedhfunnylinesand
adelightfullyeainingusing
situations.
hecastandigottogethertoreadthroughtheplay
forthefirstti,highs,heldourribs,
cackled,hoons
hedaysby,we
alllaughedlessandless.
afepletedarunthrough
oftheperforoothlyandwas
,butit.nobodyi,including
,ile.itwas
likeon.isatthere
hadbeensofunnyinthefirstplace.
openingnighttherearies,critics,
andyusual
plathebackroheaislesoiuldleaveina
hurryiftheaudieueduglyjustkiddingandhave
neverbeensoanxious.thelightsdied,thecurtain
iheaudience
begantolaughandlaughandlaugh,andwas
stiiwas
thepo
thesastuffthatidheardduringthreeweeksof
rehearsalandthatidquitfindingfunny,aherei
waslaughingagainwhy
theansilingandlaughingisvery
iious.ilaughedbecausetheylaughed,hrefreshed
ryofihadfoundsofunnybefore.
ianytistoseethatproduyfirstsuccessful
attetatdiregedy,andilaughed
alstasanceisaw.
theresalessonhereforeveryone.,
youarebeingtheaudienceforotherpeopleandtheiion
ruleisjustastrue.ileandlaugh,others
ileandlaughrightbackatyou.
acaveat:choutforpeopleilehonlyone
sideoftheiruthtuedup.oneshouldbecautious
aboutlopsidedslestheyuldbehalfheartedorless
tha.
yourtoolsforgothers
theiyouareiion,fortheright
titoshoileastheiondictates.ifthe
ionandspeakerareserious,youlookserious.if
thetalkisaboutlight,asingthings,enurageyourself
tosle.
youdontnecessarilyhavetoagree
hisbeingsaid;
yousilyhavetotood.ifshe
isbeihusiastidyou,allowyourself
tosle.
chapter22
bequick
topraise
praise,likegoldanddiands,
osvalueonlytoitsscarcity.
saeljohnson
ion,especiallyifwehave
acplishedsothinghinkishwhile.
alkaboutthingstheyare
evidentlyproudof,thereisasileointensifytheir
pleasure.
bequicktopraisetheir,generosity,thoughtfulness,
quiess,cleveess,oreverisappropriate.
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thepo
youbesuretheyher
indi.
appreportanttoallof
us.itisthefuelinthefuaotivation.hout
regnitionandpraise,nyofuswell
beloanyeloyees
respondrepositivelytopraisethantoaraise.
reerhild,spouse,a
friend,oruphpleasurebecauseyou
praisedoradredorsho
reerhofeelshappenstoyou
rononacriticsreviews
ireerasclearlyasifityvery
firstjortheaterrevieheneing
aplaybyxiorkycalledthelohs,and
ityfirstprofessionalprodu.depthsisagreat
classicalagreatchalleocutyourteethon
asadirector.naturallyiteredatbeinggiventhe
opportunityandfrighteheienseresponsibility.
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