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bodylanguagethanaren.researchshohata
anjoinasocialgatheringoffiftyuplesand
assessthestateofeachoftheirrelationshipshinabout
tennutesofenteringtherooanuldspend
hoursinthesaroondhavenoideaening
intherelationshipsoftheotheruples.
rononntrollingyourbodysaystoothers
ionceageached
bruceebyhisotoey.it
inhathis
neployershadfraudulentlysrepreseheelves.
heobedeposedonvideobyanotably
aggressivedefeoey.tocheckouthowhewould
doonvideo,hisattoeydidsoroleplaying
aionedhisthoughheuallybeing
deposed.hererdedtheresultandthenplayeditback.
onelookandhecalledin.
ideyohatpurpose,his
attoeyhadsuppliedhalistofquestionsthat
bruceghtfaceduriioning.whenhearrived,i
sathioyvideocara.theniroleplayed
beingtheopposingunselandined
hint,ijustranthroughsoofthe
questionstoseehoighteacrosstothejury.
thesixthsignal:bodylanguagetoavoid
theniplayedbatosee.itwasa
realsho.
brudressedinexpensive
butnoightfittingclothes.therehehevideo
nitor,sluedbahischair,hhisstraining
bellyalstpoppionsoffhisshirt.herarely
gedhispositioninanyped.even
aspedbackathe
cara.
iplayedba,“letsbe
objeberofthejury
knoan,hoeacrosstoyou”
hebeingastupidnandtriedtobetruthful
abouthispersonalevaluation.“helooksalittleover
andperhapsalittletoosureofhielf.idont
thinkheakeagoodiression.”
heihevideoandsaid,
“infapression.”
hetuedandlookedatandsaid,“ifyouwerea
erofthejuryhoeacrosstoyou”
houthesitatingisaid,“fatcatlaakesalotof
ney,sg,arrogant,doesntgiveada.theyreall
alikeillsho”
thepointisthatbruecessarilyanyofthose
things,buthisbodylanguageandtotaldeanorcreated
thatiression.andthatshowhewouldbejudged.
sothiobedone.
alittle
toavoidstraininghisbuttoned
thepo
jacket,satupright,softenedhisvoidevenleaned
forhenasthoughheoanswer
theirquestions.igefrobr >
“thefatcat”to“thegentlegiant.”hease.
sotispeoplefoldtheirarorslu,sily
becauseitsfortabletodoso.iknowido.when
yourehpeopleyoushouldalwaysbeawareofsignals
thatydiately
getheo,
tobeustbeinntrolof
akesureyouaresending
outalltherightsignals.
yourtoolsforgothers
beaeandatwork.
nsessageofth,
heandstand.
observethebodylanguageofotherstoseekindof
ssagestheyaresending.tudoeonyour
televisionandtrytoascertainthedifferentactorsare
thinkingorsaying.
chapter16
theseventhsignal:
vocalreassurances
friendshipredoublethjoysandcuttethgriefsinhalves.
forthereisnonthatiartethhisjoystohisfriend,
buthejoyeththere;andnonthatiarteth
hisgriefstohisfriend,buthegrieveththeless.
francisban
youicethatgood,activelistenersalways
kelittlenoiseslike“uhhuh,”“aah,”
“h,”orotherassortedsounds.thesearewe
liketocall“vocalreassuraheyareclearindicators
ofsooention.theyareeasily
identifiedandchappreciatedbythespeaker.they
inquotient.
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thepo
yourtoolsforgothers
kereassuringsouiyoulistentoanother
person.alloinctstoguideyouastoouse
the
bineyourvocalreassuranceshgoodeyentact
andheadnodding.together,thesesignalstellaspeaker
thatyouarepayingattentionandthinkingaboutshe
issaying.iftheotherpersonstartstobeereintense
orexcited,keyourvocalreassurancesalittlelouderto
reflectthedegreeofyouri.
chapter17
theeighthsignal:
verbalreassurances
afriendisapersoniybesincere.
beforehiiythinkaloud.
ralpherson
vo.butifyou
biheverbalreassurances,youdouble
theiriact.eyentact,flicks,bodyines,andhead
nodsandtiltstogetherkeagreatiressiononpeople
butoary,
youbeeatotallygionalist.
thefirsttypeofverbalreassuranittal
t
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thepo
talbeeanthatyouagree
hisbeingsaid.has“isee,”
“really”or“hatso,”reassurepeoplethatyouare
listeningandkeepinginstep,butyourein
ral.nonttale
reassurangeneralorcasualion.theyfill
theairduringslltalkatcktailpartiesandothersocial
events.
tyourselfandto
agreeorsupportisbeingsaid,youthenusewords
andphrasessuchas“yes,houtquestion,”ree,
absolutely,”or“youhitthenailrightonthehead,”andthelike.
atthistiyoubeeanallyintheionyou
havetakensides.beforeyouoffersutsthatnvey
agreent,alhisisyoutodo.
essingapersonsoneofvoicealso
hasiaethingtokesoone
elseangrythendeclaredyourinnocebysaying,
“butionlysaidsudsuch.”usuallytheotherperson
respoelybysaying
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