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affectthetionallyifyoutolikeyou.
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peoplebytheir,andbytheir
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extealappearandlookintotheheartoftheperson
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captivatedbyherasaperson,andbyeverywordshe
says,houtinterruptingorstoppingherfloion.
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eachotherseyes,soshouldyouallopletely,
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andyou.
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hertospeakhoutinterruptingortalkingaboutyourself.
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saskillsofacceptance,appreciation,andapproval.askher
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